I Don’t Deserve…
If you are living with this limitation in your life, it usually shows up with the difficulty to attain, have or hold onto the things in life that matter to you. This could show up in your personal relationships where you experience people never being the “right fit” for you, because you subconsciously believe that you don’t truly deserve a high quality person that does understand you and fits well in your life. So, you spend your life settling for a person who doesn’t understand you, support you, value you, or truly care for you. You could experience this challenge within a primary relationship such as your mother, father, or siblings. The challenge could also exist in a chosen relationship such as a life partner or business partner.
Feelings round out the statement of I don’t deserve… with the following:I don’t deserve to be loved.
- I don’t deserve to love anyone.
- I don’t deserve a happy and powerful relationship.
- I don’t deserve to have joy in my life.
- I don’t deserve to live a meaningful life.
- I don’t deserve to have good and loyal friends.
The limiting base belief of “I don’t deserve…” can be carried beyond relationships into the material world. These beliefs minimize what we perceive we can have and achieve in our lifetime.
- I don’t deserve to have a good, dependable job that pays me well.
- I don’t deserve to have a nice home.
- I don’t deserve a safe and reliable car.
Our limiting beliefs about deserving can also impact our safety and well-being.
- I don’t deserve to stand up for myself.
- I don’t deserve to take care of my health.
- I don’t deserve to live.
When I’ve assisted people with unraveling the limiting belief of “not deserving” we find that somewhere in the person’s childhood s/he was scolded and/or deeply disappointed or hurt by an authority figure who told them in a moment of anger, “You don’t deserve that!” Often this moment of anger was accompanied by a slap on the hand, or at least the taking away of something that was precious or desired by the child at that time. The moment happened in private settings such as at home or in public settings which may have also involved humiliation, such as a being in a grocery store where the candy bar or trinket the child was looking at was rapidly and hurtfully taken away in front of others.
The belief that “we don’t deserve” creates a deep inability to be proactive in our lives. We can take on a victim perspective about our life. We may feel that life is being “done TO us” rather than actively participating in making life choices for ourselves. The desire or need to make important life choices can become incredibly intimidating and threatening, filled with deep fear of rejection and the belief that whatever we want will only be taken away from us.
The GOOD news is that we don’t have to keep living from this very painful and threatening position. Our subconscious was programmed with the belief that “I don’t deserve….” But remember, this is only a PROGRAM! Like any program it can be altered, updated and superseded by a new and healthy program of “I DESERVE….”
While it may seem incredibly simple to say this can be done, the truth is, it’s not only possible to change the limitation, it is absolutely DO-ABLE to change this limitation. Why keep living in lack and limitation when you can learn how to change your life for the better? Learn how to use your subconscious mind to support your goals and help you achieve what you deserve to have in this life instead of always settling! Isn’t it time to make that change for yourself? Learn PSYCH-K so you can make positive and powerful changes that will support you building a life you love living!
You DO deserve to change your life for the better!
In Love and Light,
Karen McKy
Certified PSYCH-K Instructor
